Work is stressful. Kids are stressful. Life is stressful! As time flies by and the world changes, life seems to be getting more and more chaotic. Everyone wants everything now. Your boss is stressing you out, your family are stressing you out. Everything is hard work.
Modern life seems to be finding more and more ways to apply pressure and stress to us cave men (or women). Modern life squeezes you at every turn.
Modern life is stressful!
What is Stress
People generally throw the word ‘stress’ around about all sorts of things and situation….’The dog is stressing me out…’, ‘work is stressful at the mo…’, ‘My wife is stressing me out…’. These are just words but what actually is stress?
Stress is when pressure applied by something, or someone, becomes too much and you feel like you can’t cope. You need to get your zen back, or avoid these situations all together.
People deal with stress in different ways but hopefully this short guide will help you steer clear of it in the first place!
Avoiding stress or dealing with stress as soon as you spot the signs can avoid mental and physical problems later down the line.
Modern Causes of Stress
Stress is really caused by someones perception of a situation so everyone is different but here is a list of some of the more common causes of stress:
- Money problems. The number one cause of stress is money issues. Lack of money or pressure to pay bills and debts can cause massive stress to people.
- Relationship problems. Divorce, separating or arguing with a partner can be particularly stressful.
- Work or career. Some jobs are just stressful, other times it could be a colleague or just a project you are working on.
- Sickness or illness.
- Traumatic events.
- Fighting with friends or family.
- Noisy neighbors.
- Trouble with kids.
- Working too many hours.
- Hating your job.
- Harassment at work.
- Moving house.
- Changing jobs
- Having to confront someone.
- Having to do something you are dreading can cause weeks of stress and anxiety.
And these are just a few things that people get stressed about! And then there are the things your brain kinda just makes up all on its own. Things like when you worry about world events or things that you think might happen….Or even your world view on situations might cause you stress. For example, some people might see a stolen car as an opportunity to buy a new one….Others see it as the end of the world!
Am i Stressed?
You might think you aren’t stressed, but its actually very hard for you to tell. The symptoms might not be obvious to you from your perspective.
Effects of Stress
Stress is a killer. Its thought that stress kills more people worldwide than anything else. It will raise your blood pressure, ages you quicker and weakens your immune system. Stress is bad news so if you can avoid it, you should.
Stress has a few symptoms you can keep an eye out for. Physically you might notice that you tummy is churning or that you need to go to the toilet more often. You might have more headaches and you might find you keep lashing out at little things that shouldn’t really bother you.
Mentally you might find you are struggling to concentrate, You are irritable and you just feel grumpy!
Stress is a serious problem. In the workplace it can cost a fortune in long term sick, and at home it causes issues in relationships but its your health that will take the biggest hit. Stress causes high blood pressure, weight problems and general bad health.
So keep a look out for the following symptoms.
Stress Symptoms Checklist
Here is a handy, quick stress symptom checklist.
- Tummy issues
- Grumpy all the time
- snapping at things you shouldn’t
- Generally irritable
- Lots of colds
How to Deal With Stress
Modern life will always have a little bit of stress but its how you manage it and how you cope with stress that counts.
Stress is a strange thing. Some people find certain situations easy to deal with where others struggle and find it almost impossible to cope. Why is that? Are the easy going folks made of different stuff? No. Its the way they look at the world.
People who are able to deal with stressful situations are able to do it because they genuinely believe the situation isn’t cause for concern. They have a different view of the world from someone who falls to pieces int he same situation. They rationalize situations much more easily.
Often, dealing with stress will involve a change in the way you view situations.
And often, things really aren’t as bad as your brain is having you believe. Stress management is a great skill to learn and mindfulness is an amazing way to develop your understanding of your thoughts and how your mind works. Its a good start and even if you don’t feel stressed, you should still meditate or practice mindfulness regularly.
If you know you are stressed, you need time off work before its too late. Or make permanent changes or steps to get yourself out of the situation that is causing it.